“The time comes for everyone to do deliberately what he used to do by mistake… If you are effeminate by nature, you have to find some way of telling the world you know you are, otherwise they keep telling you.”

-Quentin Crisp (Okay, he was a curmudgeon who said a lot of things we would now call highly problematic, but he had one of the most remarkable personalities of the 20th century; besides, anyone who was openly gay and femme in London in the 1930s deserves respect. I only found out after he died in 2002 that his phone number was listed in the New York telephone directory and he considered it his duty to hold a pleasant conversation with anyone who phoned. It’s one of the regrets of my life that I never did this.)